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11/08/2015 02:06 PM
04/02/2015 09:19 AM
In my business, I have to spend a lot of time listening.......and not talking. Whew, for this magpie that is a difficult thing to do and sometimes I just don't do it as well as I should. However, listening is one of the most important things you can do, day in and day out. What is the old saying.....that is why God gave you 2 ears and one mouth. Research says we remember only about 25% of what we hear.....that is not a lot of remembering, therefore that is not a lot of listening.
Active listening, implies doing just that....actively listening as opposed to passively listening. Active listening is something we all need to get better at doing because we can glean so much more information when we are really listening. So here are a few tips for you and some great reminders for me!
1. Focus on paying attention. I know that sounds silly but you have to be intentional about listening.
2. Mirror back to someone what is being said so they can know they are being heard and being heard correctly.
3. Maintain eye contact, nod, use vocal cues like "nice", "yes", "I see", lean forward a little bit and watch your body language.
4. Don't spend your "listening" time figuring out what your response is going to be (although at my age I am afraid I am going to forget what my response is going to be!)
5. Don't interrupt (yikes - I think I might have that problem but working on it!)
6. Don't start daydreaming, thinking about your own personal problems, your grocery list, etc.
7. Lastly, try to listen "non-judgmentally". It is difficult to listen without putting your own history and frame of reference on what the other person is saying but this is an important component to listening.
So, with all that being said, what did I just say?? Were you really listening?
It is a fun experiment to see how actively you can listen and how actively people are listening to you. You may find you are just talking to hear your own self talk!
Now go use those ears and close that mouth!
03/02/2015 07:56 AM
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01/14/2015 04:06 AM
|You've walked 5,000 steps|
|And made it look easy breezy. Congratulations on cruising your way to the first Fitbit daily step badge—the Boat Shoe! Keep up the good work|
The reason I hate this thing is I have to work really hard to achieve the goal of 10,000 steps per day. I really, really don't like to exercise but I know I have to do it to live the life I want to live. I know I have to exercise to be fit and healthy, however I get bored easily and I find it hard to work into my schedule, on a regular basis. All that being said, I will continue to exercise, well, just because it is what I need to do and I want/need more badges!
01/05/2015 06:01 AM
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01/02/2015 06:41 AM
You can see, from the pictures below, the "like" items I have: Santas/decorative items, stockings/pillows/tree skirt, Nativity sets, framed Christmas photos and plaques, dishes, books, window lamps, window greenery, bows and outdoor spotlights and cords.
The bulbs of the window lamps are separated into a ziploc bag to protect them.
11/03/2014 06:37 AM
I hear it all the time from clients or prospective clients: I have ADHD or my kids have ADHD or my husband has ADHD.
I, myself, am convinced I have ADHD and I am a professional organizer! Granted, I am one of 7 children, growing up in the 60's when those acronyms meant nothing. I am sure I had traits even way back when but had to somehow learn to cope and teach myself a new way to do things.
Here are five strategies I have learned that have helped this distracted, procrastinating gal.
1. I talk to myself, not crazy talking to myself, but talking my way through. I remind myself to stay on task, to stay focused on my goal and to keep pressing on to completion. Sometimes, a task is best completed in small increments, rather than doing it all at once, and if that is the case, then that is certainly how I attack that task.
2. I keep a list of what I want to get done that day. I take some time, the night before to write a list, that goes in the car, of errands I need to run. I write a list of things, that stays in the house, of the things that need to get done at home. I scratch off what gets done and move forward to the next day's list of what doesn't get done.
3. I make sure my environment is not too cluttered. Clutter, in and of itself, is a total distraction and takes up brain space you need to use to stay focused.
4. I put everything away by category. If it is related to laundry, it is in the laundry room. If it is something that has to be done, it goes in my to do pile. I hang my clothes up by style and color, i.e. black shirts, white shirts, gray shirts, then black pants, gray pants, white pants, etc. Putting things in categories helps you put things away more consistently and find things more easily.
5. I have figured out how much time it takes for me to complete certain tasks and I am realistic about allotting the correct amount of time to get them totally completed. I don't pretend it is going to take me less time than it normally does and I keep myself focused on the clock so I am not late leaving the house.
Yes, this ADD/ADHD girl has conquered the beast.....most of the time. There are times I get bored, distracted and off track but with these strategies in place, it is easy to get back to where I need to be and get things done.
09/22/2014 09:28 AM
The other day it hit me.....a lot of the things I do are based on basic math principles.
Here are several examples:
- If you want to weigh less you have to eat less junk food and exercise/move more.
- If you want to have less clutter, you have to bring in less and get rid of more.
- If you have only so much square footage, you can't fit more than that amount of stuff into it.
- If you want to have a successful marriage, you have to spend more time working on it and less time fussing about it.
- If you want to increase the odds of raising responsible kids into responsible adults, you have to take more time to nurture, teach, discipline and love them and less time yelling at them, berating them, buying them stuff and expecting someone else to raise them for you.
- If you want to have financial peace, you have to spend less and save more.
- If you want to be happier, you spend less time worrying, fretting and complaining and more time figuring out what you can do to change your situation, changing what you can and developing an attitude of gratitude.
- If you want to feel better, you have to spend less time indulging what you know you shouldn't be indulging in and more time on things that are good for you.
- If you want to make a difference, you spend less time on yourself and more time on helping others.
- If you want to live purposefully, spend more time doing the things you are created to do and less time comparing yourself to others.
Less and more......basic math principles that equal some great results. See you should have paid attention to that math class in school! It really is important.
09/01/2014 05:02 AM
None of this means that I can't organize to make a house look like a magazine because I can. It's just I know what works for me and I know how I think and my house is organized accordingly.
08/20/2014 04:48 AM
Evernote is one of my favorite paper buster tools. When I use Evernote, I don't have a bunch of sticky notes sitting around. I don't have notes written on little pieces of paper and best of all, I don't have to remember where I put those pieces of paper!
The information I have stored in Evernote can be seen on my phone, IPAD or computer. If I am away from home and need the information, it is right at my finger tips!
Here are 10 ways I use Evernote to cut down on my paper clutter:
1. Evernote Clipper allows me to save information I find on the web and organize it in folders. I name the folders (just like you do in a paper filing system) based on how I want to retrieve the information. For example, if I find an article about de-cluttering, I Evernote clip it and "file" it in my folder - De-Clutter Information.
2. I love a good quote. I file quotes in Evernote.
3. Air Filter sizes, printer cartridges, water filter types....all of those pesky household items that are size specific are filed in Evernote so I have access to them when I am in the store ready to buy them.
4. Birthday lists......need to remember when someone's birthday is and you are not at home with your master birthday list....store it in Evernote.
5. Christmas lists! Each year I write down who I am giving a gift to and what I gave. I can easily refer back to the previous years and make sure I am not duplicating gifts!
6. Writing down your goals is an important step to achieving them. I keep my personal and business goals housed in Evernote.
7. Paint color lists....can't remember the name of that wonderful color you used in the bedroom....keep it in Evernote.
8. Evernote is a place I keep ideas.....writing ideas, newsletter ideas, gift ideas....things that come to mind that I don't have a need for right now but will want to refer to later.
9. Phone numbers - people I don't need very often....like a carpenter/handyman or closet designer. If I store that person in my contacts, on my phone, I may not remember his/her name but if I store it in Evernote....I can quickly retrieve the name and number.
10. Medication lists. This is a great thing to have in Evernote when you go to the doctor. I personally and thankfully don't have any medications I take but for those that do, this is a great way to have that information with you each and every time you have a doctor visit.
Hope this helps you think outside the box and find new ways to cut down on paper clutter with Evernote!
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08/19/2014 06:21 AM
I was recently traveling on I-95 going South. I had to exit off I-95 and merge onto I-20. I saw the signs for I-20, felt like I was paying attention but all of a sudden, something didn't feel right and my gut instinct was telling me I had missed I-20. I don't have a GPS in my car but I do have a MAP thingy on my phone. I quickly got on my MAP APP and I was 100% right....I had passed
How do you know when you are going the wrong way....in life, in work, in relationships, in anything?
I would simply say that most of us know when we are headed the wrong way, we just choose not to listen to our gut instinct or the still small voice in our heads. Many of know something is wrong but we would rather bury our heads in the sand so we don't have to deal with whatever issues are before us. Many of us know changes need to be made but we are fearful of what those changes will cost us. Many of us have been given signs and in your face clues things are not as they should be but we refuse to take the steps towards making things better.....we just play pretend...UNTIL, we can't play pretend anymore!
Eventually, the things that are wrong in our life, our work, our relationships, our anything, are going to catch up with us. The things that are wrong are just not going to disappear, they will continue to reappear and reappear and reappear and then move into something worse.
How do you know if you are going the wrong way? You pay attention. You look for the signs. You listen to your gut instinct and the still small voice. When you know you are headed the wrong way, start changing what you can, when you can and do what you can with what you have. It is always better to face things head on.....face the fear, in the end you will be better for it and stronger.
05/23/2014 08:54 AM
1. Buy purposefully.
2. Shop at home first.
3. Be willing to let go.
4. Do what you already know to do.
5. Just say no.
6. Be happy with enough
7. Collect moments not things.
8. Surround yourself with what you love and value.
9. Do the next step
10. Do a little at a time and after a while little by little a little becomes a lot.
05/08/2014 05:28 PM
The other day I happened to glimpse up and see this news flash on TV: Taking an aspirin a day may not be good for your health.
Ok, really??? It seems like it was not so long ago all the doctors were telling people to take a baby aspirin every day to prevent heart attack and stroke. Now they are saying only if you have a family history and if you do take an aspirin a day you can develop bleeding in your stomach.
These are just a few other things I am confused about:
1. Carbs or no carbs
2. Yolk or no yolk
3. Real butter or margarine
4. 6 meals a day or 3 meals a day
5. Hormone replacement or no hormone replacement
6. Running or no running
7. Real sugar, stevia, honey or nothing
8. Organic or not
9. Dairy or no dairy
10.Red wine or white wine - cause it is going to be one or the other.
So, what am I going to do? Live life in moderation. So far my parents have lived to the ripe ages of 95 and 89 and are still kicking it! They have tried to take very little medication, have eaten when they felt like it but at least 3 times a day, have exercised on a regular but not rigid basis and have laughed and loved a lot.
For now, that's my plan.......no matter what the news throws at me.
04/30/2014 08:50 AM
(photo courtesy of zirconicusso/freedigitalphotos.net)
Cell phones are one of the easiest things in our lives to recycle/donate or trade. Check out all the ways you recycle/donate or trade responsibly along with possibly even helping others at the same time.
1. Staples will take all old electronics (computers, monitors, cell phones, calculators, etc) at no extra charge. Check out their website to see the list of approved items they will take-Staples.com. Several other companies will do the same, such as Best Buy, Office Max, Radio Shack and Office Depot.
2. Donate your gently used cell phone to Cell Phones for Soldiers. This organization is dedicated to providing cost-free communication services to active-duty military members and veterans.
3. Most cell phone providers offer a drop box at their locations for cell phone recycle.
4. Many local Domestic Abuse Centers will accept donations of gently used cell phones to be given to victims of domestic abuse. Check with your local women's shelters.
5. American Cell Phone Drive is an organization devoted to the socially responsible reuse of retired cellular telephones and cell phone components, AmericanCellPhoneDrive.org raises funds for charitable organizations which provide scholarships for American children who have lost a parent to enemy or terrorist acts, feed malnourished children in Asia, build low- income housing, donate prepaid calling cards to military personnel, sponsor missionaries in China and support a host of other good works. Simply enter your zip code into their search box and find a drop box close to you.
6. Sell your phone on Craigslist or Ebay.
7. Greendisk.com takes all types of technotrash and recycles or refurbishes it.
04/25/2014 06:28 AM
The word "constant" has been creeping up in my vocabulary a lot lately.
Talking to mothers about motherhood....it's constant.
Talking to wives about marriage......it's constant.
Talking to people about work.......it's constant.
Talking to people about relationships.......it's constant.
Talking to people about bill paying.....it's constant.
Talking to people about staying organized.......it's constant.
Talking to people about cleaning......it's constant.
So, what does this mean? Life is constant. There is stuff in your life that constantly needs attention.
So, what do you do?
Take breaks when you can.
Appreciate the small breaks you get.
Realize this is what you signed on for when you became a wife, a mother, a friend, a member of a group, a homeowner, an employee.
Life ends up not really being about you but you in the context of life with all of the other people in it. It's just how life is so you can fight it, fuss about it, talk about how bad it is, whine about it, cry about it or nag about it. But a better alternative might be to embrace it, change what you can about it and find things to be thankful in it. Your approach and your attitude makes all the difference in the world in having a miserable life or a wonderful life......either way, it's going to be constant.
04/04/2014 06:59 AM
to present (something) in a different or new way
03/30/2014 12:47 PM(photo courtesy of anankkml/freedigitalphotos.net)
VHS tapes, like all electronics are going the way of the dinosaur. What is the best way to donate/recycle these dinosaurs? Here are several ideas that might help you.
1. Some Thrift stores are still taking VHS tapes.....most libraries are not.
2. Use an e-recycler, like GREEN DISK, who does recycling of all kinds of techno trash.
3. Ask a teacher or daycare provider if they would like them.
4. Post the tapes on FREECYCLE.ORG and see if there is someone else that wants them.
5. Send your tapes to ACTSERVICES.ORG. This program provides services to individuals with disabilities.
6. Check out my Pinterest page for creative ways to recycle VHS tapes. Here are just two examples.....these people are way more creative than I am!
So, declutter and be creative in getting rid of the VHS tapes you no longer use.
03/24/2014 12:04 AM
When we look at our daily life. the quote, in the photo above, says a lot and can strike a chord in many of us,
Can you list the things that you say you don't have time to do?
Spending time with our friends, family or spouse
I am not judging or condemning anyone because I am just as guilty. To find time, for the most important "things" in our life, we have to look honestly at our schedule and see what things we are saying YES to that is causing us to say NO to something else. The things we are saying YES to may be very noble things, may be good causes, and you may feel like the whole thing will fall apart if you are not a part of it. However, just because you can do something doesn't mean you should be.
What I do know about this concept is: if your health fails - from lack of exercising or not eating right - all of a sudden you find time to deal with it. If your relationships fail - from lack of attention - all of a sudden you find time for the people in your life. If crisis mode hits - from lack of organization - all of a sudden you find time to try and get organized.
What don't you have time for that you know is important? Are you able to take some hard looks at your schedule and make some hard choices? If not, eventually, life will do it for you.
03/09/2014 05:46 PM
02/24/2014 06:15 AM(photo courtesy of stuartmiles/freedigitalphotos.net)
Life was meant to live in balance. Is your life balanced?
If you assess your life in these areas, how satisfied are you in each area of your life:
2. Health - Physical and Emotional
3. Personal Environment
4. Social Life
5. Spiritual Life
6. Family Life
9. Personal Time
"The key to keeping your balance is knowing when you've lost it". Anonymous
Have you lost your balance and you haven't taken the time to find out? If you take the time to assess these areas of your life and see what is out of balance, you can take the steps necessary to get it back in balance. The changes maybe not happen overnight and the steps may not be easy but they are necessary steps to live a more purposeful, enjoyable and balanced life.
Where are you out of balance?
02/22/2014 06:23 AM
I hear it all the time...HELP! I work and I work and I work and I just cannot get organized.
I can give you 10 of the most common reasons why you can't get organized.
1. You are trying to organize like someone else thinks....not how you think.
2. You are trying to organize too much at one time.
3. You are not willing to let go.
4. You are not staying focused for any length of time.
5. You are not taking the next step....are you hanging up your robe, are you putting the trash in the trash can, the dirty dish in the dishwasher, are you taking the designated donate items to a donation location, etc.
6. You do not have a home for everything
7. You have not scheduled time to organize
8. You have unreal expectations about how long it will take to undo what has taken years to do.
9. You want to talk about getting organized more than you really want to exert the effort to change habits and ways of thinking.
10. You have life reasons such as sickness - physical or mental or you have way too many things on your life plate.
All of the above are legitimate reasons but all can be overcome. You just have to be honest enough, with yourself, to know the reasons why and see what you can do to combat those obstacles, because you truly can combat them. I'll tell you a little secret........if you look at the top 9 reasons, just do the opposite of what the sentence says and you can overcome that obstacle.
For example, #1 - You are trying to organize like someone else thinks....not how you think.
What you say to yourself is - how do I think and what will work for me?
#2 - You are trying to organize too much at one time
What you say to yourself is - I am going to organize one shelf.....not the whole kitchen.
See how that works. The only one that will not work with is reason #10. There are things in life that are really out of your control but even in those times, you do have more control than you think......sometimes you just have to do things you don't really feel like doing.
Take a look at the list above, do any of them ring true to you?
There are other reasons, too, what are some of yours?
02/18/2014 12:52 PM
The word discontent has been rattling around in my brain recently. I am not sure why but I try very hard to pay attention when anything is rattling around in my brain!
Dictionary.com defines discontent as not content; dissatisfied; a restless desire or craving for something one does not have. At first glance, the word discontent would appear to have a negative connotation but upon further reflection and review, I might say it can have a positive connotation as well.
I can become very discontent if I receive a catalog, sit down to look at the catalog, turn down the pages of what I love and then realize I can't order any of it due to budget constraints.
I can become very discontent if I walk into a friend's house and see everything in pristine condition and order
I can become very discontent if I exercise and eat "right", for a couple of days and the scales do not seem to reflect all my "hard" work!
I can become very discontent if I watch the news, day in and day out and see the sad stories of corruption, death and economic despair.
However, I do believe that discontentment can be a positive force in our lives, if we so choose.
I can become discontent about my business, which can lead me to look for ways to see how I can improve.
I can become discontent about my spiritual life not growing, which causes me to seek ways to go deeper.
I can become discontent about my marriage, which motivates me to examine what part I play in trying to make it better.
I can become discontent about just about anything, but I can choose to do what I can to adjust my circumstances but more importantly my attitude.
Discontentment can breed more discontentment, however, you can choose for it to breed contentment and gratitude. Guess whose choice it is?
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